Honesty, Friendship and Malice?

“No one can lie, no one can hide anything, when he looks directly into someone's eyes.”

Paulo Coelho

Jim Rohn's famous quote: Success is not what you have but what you become.

Life is funny isn’t it, yet the beauty is that because it is a journey, it is also a learning experience. Often times, as we get older and hopefully wiser and more in tune with who we are as individuals, discerning hopefully right from wrong, we become aware of our surroundings more and who we are as human beings.

It is this awareness that affords us from making the same mistakes we made when we were younger and more green. This awareness through the eyes of experience can sometimes offer us insights into circumstances and people in a very surprising way and hopefully we learn to be objective and as non-critical and judgemental as life will allow us. By the time we are in our mid thirties, surely we should be mature and adult enough to deal with each other with honestly, integrity and the respect which all human beings are due. Yet, alas this myth is used by only a few people.

Personally, I happen to be a very open and trusting individual, sometimes to my own detriment. I can easily look someone in the eye and say what I feel because I know I have no malice towards anyone, no hatred nor resentment, envy or jealousy. I know that if I do feel any sort of antagonism towards anyone, then I certainly cannot greet them as a good friend, in the hypocrisy of a smile, a hug or a handshake. Yet there are many people out there whose lack of integrity and respect for themselves, never-mind others allow them to do just so. Parasites of Satan’s gang.

Recently, my intuition has been sending me signals. I have felt at times an almost invisible presence of unease and I know there are a few people within my own circle, so to speak, who smile in my face, who even offer me help and support yet who in underhanded ways wish me ill and would want to put the spokes of sabotage in my wheels, as I strive to better myself.

Yet, I realise that these insecure and malicious individuals are only turning on themselves, because I am much stronger than to be stopped in my tracks by any-one. I labour long and hard to do what I do and I have a vision. I have always offered help and advice to anyone who wishes to receive it. I may not always be right, and people will not always agree with me and may even challenge me, which is fine. I am open to such comments and if at anytime, I cannot personally offer assistance, I will go out of my way to put people in touch with those who can help them.

On this journey through life, I know I can certainly expect to experience things like this from people who are insecure, full of malice and who have nothing better to do with their lives than to wish ill on others. I have had so many conversations with people who have become successful and who have experienced such behaviour and that is why I am constantly reviewing my circle of contacts and people I call friends.

Yet amidst all this, I wish them well and should they wish to turn such negativity and parasitic behaviour into something positive, the world too can be their oyster.

Also in terms of what I have experienced over the past year, and yet even lately, where another one of my late sister's friends passed away from breast cancer on Sunday 8th April 2007, what are mere words from people who have no vision? Life is more than we take for granted. Life has many many wonderful things to offer us, yet many of us waste this gift on trivialities. Remember:

The grave is a rich place, full of people with great ideas, dreams and visions. DOn;t be a fool and let malice shroud your vision.
“Honesty is the best policy. If I lose mine honor, I lose myself.”
Willian Shakespeare